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Have Your CupCAKE (and Feel Peaceful, Too) is a 6-day jumpstart for transforming your relationship with food.

Have Your CupCAKE (and Feel Peaceful, Too) is a 6-day course for women who have created success in many parts of their lives, but haven’t been able to crack the code on this whole eating and body-image thing.

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Does This Sound Like You?

Public vs. Private Persona

When anyone sees you, you’re all salad and green smoothies. But when you’re by yourself, it’s a totally different story.

You "Know" What to Do, but Just Don't Do It

But deep down, you really don’t know what to do to stop overeating and even bingeing.

You Do Great for a While

You do really well on a weight loss or healthy eating plan for a while, but something always gets in the way and you blow it eventually.

Your World Is Getting Smaller

You find it difficult to go anywhere where food will be served. You worry that you will either eat too much, or there won’t be the “right” food for you to eat.

There's No Room Left in Your Brain

Thinking about food for literally almost every minute of the day has crowded out mental and emotional space for anything else.

If those sound familiar, then you are in the right place.

You know the drill. You look at your thights and swear things must change.

So you plan a diet; get excited; start on Monday; feel hopeful; order steamed broccoli for lunch; feel virtuous; weigh self – yay!; drink green smoothies.

So far, so good.

But then you meet up with your long-lost love – Pizza. You have a torrid foodie call all weekend long. But it’s okay, you’ll just get this affair out of your system and start fresh on Monday (again!). You’ll throw Pizza’s belongings out the window and change the locks.

But Pizza has a way with you. Pizza knows you can never stay away for very long. 

No matter how hard you try, you eventually fall under the spell of Pizza. And French Fries. And Cake. You can swear them off, but it’s always temporary.

The harder you try, the more you’re stuck.

You end up ricocheting back and forth between being in control around food – and having your face planted in a box of donuts. While you sit on a pile of dirty laundry in your closet.

It’s not about the food. And it’s not about your ability to control yourself.

It’s really about your relationship with food. 

That's why I created

Have Your CupCAKE (and Feel Peaceful, Too)

Hi, I’m Barb Spanjers, and I’ve been there, done that.

As a therapist and wellness coach, I’ve made it my mission to help women feel peaceful and at ease around food and in their bodies. (I know – that sounds radical.)

I went on my first diet at age 9. Yikes! This started a cycle of crash dieting that made me feel alternately self-righteous, disappointed, hopeful, and then guilt-ridden for eating too much. “Too much,” was, in fact, a normal-sized meal.

No surprise – life did not become perfect at my lowest weight. You know what I felt then? HUNGRY! Really, it was a whole lot of effort and misery for a whole lot of nothing. Not to mention all the Saran wrap I wasted wrapping up my thighs.

Ditching diets opened up a whole world where I could focus on other, more important things.

When I stopped going on stupid diets (“stupid” = all diets), my weight stabilized. But what was even better was that when I stopped counting calories, weighing food, and obsessing about meals, my life got better.

Also? I can sit in a room unsupervised with a box of Girl Scout cookies without white-knuckling it.

And I want the same for you.