Do you want to keep fighting your body
for the rest of your life?
I didn’t think so.
Enrollment is open for Have Your CAKE (and Feel Peaceful, Too), a three-month program to help you feel guilt-free around food* and at ease in your body.
*(Yup, even around cake.)
You know the drill. You look at your thighs and swear things must change.
So you plan a diet; get excited; start on Monday; feel hopeful; order steamed broccoli for lunch; feel virtuous; weigh self – yay!; drink green smoothies.
So far, so good.
But then you meet up with your long-lost love – Pizza. You have a torrid foodie call all weekend. But it’s okay, you’ll just get this affair out of your system and start fresh on Monday (again!). You’ll throw Pizza’s belongings out the window and change the locks.
But Pizza has a way with you. Pizza knows you can never stay away for very long.
No matter how hard you try, eventually fall under the spell of Pizza. And French Fries. And Cake. You can swear them off, but it’s always temporary.
The harder you try, the more you’re stuck.
You end up ricocheting back and forth between being in control around food – and having your face planted in a box of donuts.
While you sit on a pile of dirty laundry in your closet.
It’s not about the food. And it’s not about your ability to control yourself.
It’s really about your relationship with food.
That's why I createdHave Your CAKE (and Feel Peaceful, Too)
Have Your CAKE (and Feel Peaceful, Too) is a three-month program for women who have created success in many parts of their lives, but haven’t been able to crack the code on this whole eating and body-image thing.
Hi, I’m Barb Spanjers, and I’ve been there, done that.
As a therapist and wellness coach, I’ve made it my mission to help women feel peaceful and at ease around food and in their bodies. (I know – that sounds radical.)
I went on my first diet at age 9. (Yikes!) This started a cycle of crash dieting that made me feel alternately self-righteous, disappointed, hopeful, and then guilt-ridden for eating too much. “Too much” was a normal-sized meal for a teenager.
No surprise – life did not become perfect at my lowest weight. You know what I felt at my lowest weight? HUNGRY! Really, it was a whole lot of effort and misery for a whole lot of nothing. Not to mention all the Saran wrap I wasted wrapping up my thighs.
Ditching the diet mindset opened up a whole world where I could focus on other, more important things.
When I stopped going on stupid diets (“stupid” = all diets), my weight stabilized. But what was even better was that when I stopped counting calories, measuring out food, or obsessing about meals, my life changed.
Also? I can sit in a room unsupervised with a box of Girl Scout cookies without white-knuckling it.
And I want the same for you.
Does This Sound Like You?
Public vs. Private Persona
You "Know" What to Do, but Just Don't Do It
You Do Great for a While
Your World Is Getting Smaller
There's No Room Left in Your Brain
If those sound familiar, then you are in the right place.
Feeling peaceful around food
Understanding why diets fail
Appreciating your body
Recognizing your body's cues
Ditching the negative
If you can’t imagine how Have Your CAKE can change your life, take it from women just like you:
Here's how the program works
Twelve Weeks | Seven Core Modules
Have Your CAKE (and Feel Peaceful, Too) includes seven core learning modules delivered over three months. Because you are embarking on a major shift for your wellbeing, there are “integration” weeks built into the schedule. This is time to rest and practice what you’ve been learning. It’s also a great time to revisit material at your leisure, or catch up on what you didn’t have time to do. (Rule #1: No Judgment!)
When you enroll in the Program, you will have immediate access to the first learning module. The learning materials are located in a members-only area for your convenience. That way, you never have to worry about losing an email.
The modules are a mix of video, audio, readings, and worksheets/exercises. Each week focuses on a different area that is crucial for you to step away from a diet mindset and step toward body acceptance and trust.
Additionally, there will be Virtual Office Hours held twice monthly.
Week 1: Module 1 - Biology and Physiology of Weight & Dieting
Week 2: Module 2 - Respect Your Body
Week 3: Rest and Integration
Week 4: Module 3 - No Judginess Allowed
Week 5: Rest and Integration
Week 6: Module 4 - Mindful Eating
Week 7: Module 5 - Toxic Culture
Week 8: Rest and Integration
Week 9: Emotional Eating
Week 10: Rest and Integration
Week 11: Module 7 - Rewire Your Brain
Week 12: Integration
Week 13: Follow Up/Catch Up/Wrap Up. Plus a bonus module on Intuitive Exercise!
Is Have Your CAKE (and Feel Peaceful, Too) right for you?
CAKE Is for You If:
♥ You show willpower in public, but it’s another story when nobody’s looking.
♥ You’re fed up with the evil tag team of food-guilt and body-shame sucking the joy out of your life.
♥ You want to stop battling your body. Maybe even be friends.
♥ You are tired of your self-esteem ricocheting up and down with whatever the scale says.
No CAKE for You! If:
♥ Dieting is a part of your identity and you don’t want to give it up.
♥ You enjoy eating
♥ You want to keep your hobby of judging what’s in other people’s shopping carts.
♥ Your main goal is to lose weight. (Weight loss is not goal of this program. If you experience weight loss from Have Your CAKE, it is a side effect of healing your relationship with food.)
They came, they saw, they had CAKE.
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Frequently Asked Questions
What if I fall behind the program schedule?
I'm worried that if I don't have an eating plan to follow, I'll lose control.
It sounds like you are telling me to eat a bunch of junk food and ignore nutrition. Is that true?
Money is tight for me right now.
For your ease and convenience, payment options are available.
What if I sign up but then decide this program is not right for me?
The refund policy is seven (7) days from the date of your enrollment, so if you have concerns, speak to your healthcare professional within that timeframe. Any requests for a refund after the 7-day window will be handled on a case-by-case basis and must be accompanied by a letter from your licensed physician, licensed psychotherapist, or registered dietitian.
Will I lose weight?
What won’t stay the same, though, is your mindset! Have Your CAKE is designed to help you lose guilt, shame, and negative judgment. Or as one client put it, “In the past, eating was always a shameful thing for me. But now I can have inspiring experiences with it.”
Is this therapy?